Every couple gets advice they did not ask for, usually before they have even picked a date. Our wedding ideas section aims to be more useful than that. We look at what you can skip, what guests actually notice and how to handle awkward family moments. We also follow the big celebrity weddings that set off new trends, and share stories from people whose plans changed along the way. Scroll down for the latest posts, or go straight to the topic that is keeping you up at night.
Wedding planning feels overwhelming because everything seems to depend on everything else. It helps to make the big decisions in a set order. Timing will vary, but the sequence holds for most weddings.
A spreadsheet or shared document will do the job. Keep vendor contacts, payments and due dates in one place, so that you are not searching through old emails.
Costs add up quickly, mostly through small items. Ask every vendor for a written, itemized quote. Check for service fees, overtime and delivery charges. Build in a cushion for items you did not expect, and keep track of what you have paid.
There are several ways to save without the guests feeling it.
A personal wedding does not have to cost more. It usually comes down to small choices that could only be yours.
Seeing celebrity weddings can be fun, and they may give you an idea or two. Use them for inspiration, not as a checklist.
Weddings bring families together, and that can bring tension with it. Most problems come down to expectations, so being clear early can head them off.
Decide together what is open for discussion, and let each partner handle their own family. If someone is paying for part of the wedding, talk early about what that means. Our in-law stories show why that talk is worth having.
Be clear about children, plus-ones and dress code on the invitation or wedding website. You can’t please everyone, and a kind but firm answer is fine. “We are keeping it small, and we hope you understand” is enough.
RSVP on time, follow the dress code and do not bring someone who was not invited. Save big announcements for another day. If you want more detail, read our guide to guest etiquette.
Nerves are common. Ongoing doubts about the relationship are worth taking seriously, and it can help to speak with a counselor or someone you trust. Some people do decide to change course. Our stories on calling off a wedding show that life continues afterward.
Read the contract before you pay a deposit. Check the cancellation terms, the date and what happens if a vendor cannot make it. Local laws and insurance options vary, so ask a professional if you are unsure.
Start by agreeing on your priorities and your budget. Then draft a guest list, because it shapes most of your other decisions, including your choice of venue.
Decide what matters most to the two of you, and let the rest be simple. Make time for your relationship too, not just for the event.
Have a smaller guest list, an off-peak date or a venue that allows outside food. Borrow what you can, and put your money toward the things that you care about most.
Not strictly. Many old rules have relaxed, as our list of etiquette rules you can ignore explains. Being considerate of your guests still matters.
Avoid wearing an outfit that competes with the couple, bringing an uninvited guest or making a speech you were not asked to give. When in doubt, ask the couple or someone close to them.
